Finding your soulmate

"Fall in love with someone that doesn't make you think love is hard"

              I love that quote because it shouldn't be hard or doubtful when you find your best friend to communicate with daily. I have yet to be married a year yet, but being together for almost 5 1/2 years you feel like you should know that person. I have learned that when you are married that you can't be completely comfortable, meaning don't stop trying. Always remember you have to keep trying to put effort in daily. 

         I always remind myself that marriage was God's idea. You know your OWN husband or wife, God brought you him or her. You can't look at other husbands or wife's because they are completely different. Honor your husband or wife for what he or she is and not what he or she isn't. You know that you aren't perfect, so why should they. 

        The biggest issues that couples have to today is Communication. Tell him or her everything, literally. I would spare him or her your friend convo's ( you know what I mean lol). Do not complain about your spouse though, because that is the last thing they will remember. People love bad news. Don't hide your feelings. If something is bothering you and you want to fix it. Tell him or her and its solved. You can always work on things together.Always learn to forgive, it goes a long ways. Sometimes you have to learn to bite the grit and do what they want to do because you will be returned one way or another. Don't deprive your husband or wife because they will look else where for it.

         I'm a true believer in the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You could be words of affirmation, physical touch,acts of service, receiving gifts, or a quality time person. You can take the quiz online through http://www.polyu.edu.hk/sao/publications/emagazine/issue133/love%20language2.pdf . My love language is

physical touch for example: putting a hand on my shoulder,pat on the back,holding hands, kissing, or sexual intercourse. My husbands is acts of service for example: do things for him or her that is helpful like cleaning,listening,doing things he doesn't want to do, or cooking. We have to make sure that we do these things for each other because it helps the marriage grow and we meet each others needs. I think everyone should learn what their love language is!

                                                                        

       

My view on healthy eating.

              I started last October doing the pescatarian( vegetarian except fish and eggs)diet because I started to notice certain foods that hurt my stomach or I gained weight faster. I noticed particularly that red meat made me bloat and got sharp pains. It has now been 15 months and I can tell a huge difference. I had borrowed a book recently from a friend called "Blood Type Diet" by Peter J. D' Adamo.After reading it I was surprised when I read based on my blood type it is better for me to eat certain foods.

Type O blood: A high-protein diet heavy on lean meat, poultry, fish, and vegetables, and light on grains, beans, and dairy. D'Adamo also recommends various supplements to help with tummy troubles and other issues he says people with type O tend to have.

Type A blood: A meat-free diet based on fruits and vegetables, beans and legumes, and whole grains -- ideally, organic and fresh, because D'Adamo says people with type A blood have a sensitive immune system.

Type B blood: Avoid corn, wheat, buckwheat, lentils, tomatoes, peanuts, and sesame seeds. Chicken is also problematic, D'Adamo says. He encourages eating green vegetables, eggs, certain meats, and low-fat dairy.

Type AB blood: Foods to focus on include tofu, seafood, dairy, and green vegetables. He says people with type AB blood tend to have low stomach acid. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, and smoked or cured meats.<http://www.webmd.com/diet/blood-type-diet>

          I finished reading the section in the book based on my blood type diet, but it also mentioned what kind of exercise was best for me. I got surprised again because all the ones it mentioned I love to do!These were hiking, swimming,yoga,dancing,Pilates, and biking...etc.

           I just started a new book "The Body Book" by Cameron Diaz. She was really inspiring because she teaches women to love their bodies and how to maintain a healthy lifestyle. She talks about how you need to feed your body what it deserves and listening to your body.She helps you learn the facts and turning knowledge into action. You find the tools you need to build a healthier body now whether its food, skin,hair, or exercise.

         I love junk food..a lot, but I realized that its going to take time and discipline to get to where I want to be health wise. Its so hard today with everything being processed and get-togethers.I thought I just wanted to be thin and just workout all the time, but I still didn't feel good inside. I recently have been telling myself after I read these books that I will feel my best and do my best, when I do whats best for my BODY. So when I see those sour patch kids or buttery items I have to stop and think " what will this do to my body?" Especially my future body and health...

 

- Sweet Missouri Girl

My Journey to become a Godly woman

            My spiritual journey has just began. I have always believed in God ,but I wasn't educated enough and I needed guidance. I think for me it took the time to mature and learn what I wanted in life. Now I realize that God as always been there for me in so many ways and I never knew it. My husband and I took marriage counseling from his mother's preacher before we got married in May. That was a big eye opener for me because he had us look into each others eyes and ask why we wanted to get married. I had Frank go first and his reply was " I just love her." The preacher sighed and said "Well that's not the answer I was looking for." We both starting sweating in disbelieve, but after he explained himself it all made sense. He said " Love is just icing on the cake.You need to have God centered in your marriage. God created marriage and he brought you your husband or wife into your life for you. You become one and grow a long-lasting friendship. " 
                     Since then we have joined a church this summer together at First Baptist Raytown and we continue to grow in God together. I got baptized in October. Every sermon I leave like I just took other class from God's scripture.  I've learned what a spiritual attack was. I look back on my life when I've sinned or something bad as happened. I wasn't aware when I was under a spiritual attack with the devil. The devil knows that I like how things feel, but God knows, I know whats right in my head. Also, remember that the more you complain, the less you retain. So to keep him away I need to be aware and pray to God. "God speaks louder to us when we get quiet." When you think God hasn't been there for you, think back and remember good things that have happened. He is always helping you, even if you don't think that he is.Just stay patient and trust your journey.....
        So today in church I had something come over me when he started talking about fasting. Again, I wasn't educated on this topic before.I learned that fasting is not about going without food and its not a tool for God to do something for you. It simply is a way to have a great spiritual goal.I realized that I needed more direction from God and I wanted to trust him more.I decided starting today, for 21 days I was going to do the Daniel Fast and pray more. You can fast when you need to overcome sin,difficult times, revival movement,mental problems, needs of others, direction, health, and protection. I want to grow in God and renew my health. "When the Holy Spirit is calling you to fast, he is preparing you for what is ahead." So here I go on my new Journey!Wish me luck and pray for me!
                                                                                                  -Lauren Ruester

Why I wanted to start a Blog?

                                      Hello my name is Lauren Ruester. I live in Kansas City,Missouri. I'm a hairdresser,mom,and wife. I've been inspired by bloggers to teach,motivate,and share my lifestyle with others! I love to post about:
-God
-mommyhood
-love
-hair
-exercise
-cooking
-fashion
-crafts
-traveling
                    Enjoy!