Finding your soulmate

"Fall in love with someone that doesn't make you think love is hard"

              I love that quote because it shouldn't be hard or doubtful when you find your best friend to communicate with daily. I have yet to be married a year yet, but being together for almost 5 1/2 years you feel like you should know that person. I have learned that when you are married that you can't be completely comfortable, meaning don't stop trying. Always remember you have to keep trying to put effort in daily. 

         I always remind myself that marriage was God's idea. You know your OWN husband or wife, God brought you him or her. You can't look at other husbands or wife's because they are completely different. Honor your husband or wife for what he or she is and not what he or she isn't. You know that you aren't perfect, so why should they. 

        The biggest issues that couples have to today is Communication. Tell him or her everything, literally. I would spare him or her your friend convo's ( you know what I mean lol). Do not complain about your spouse though, because that is the last thing they will remember. People love bad news. Don't hide your feelings. If something is bothering you and you want to fix it. Tell him or her and its solved. You can always work on things together.Always learn to forgive, it goes a long ways. Sometimes you have to learn to bite the grit and do what they want to do because you will be returned one way or another. Don't deprive your husband or wife because they will look else where for it.

         I'm a true believer in the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You could be words of affirmation, physical touch,acts of service, receiving gifts, or a quality time person. You can take the quiz online through http://www.polyu.edu.hk/sao/publications/emagazine/issue133/love%20language2.pdf . My love language is

physical touch for example: putting a hand on my shoulder,pat on the back,holding hands, kissing, or sexual intercourse. My husbands is acts of service for example: do things for him or her that is helpful like cleaning,listening,doing things he doesn't want to do, or cooking. We have to make sure that we do these things for each other because it helps the marriage grow and we meet each others needs. I think everyone should learn what their love language is!